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Shining Examples
- To Us All
Full Name : Dee Ashworth
Who do you want the poem written for? My
Grandparents, Thelma and Emerson Putnam
Why do you want the poem written? To be read at
their 50th Wedding Anniversary party on Feb. 22, 2003; as a gift from their
children and grandchildren.
Key Messages: Based on the strong qualities they
have taught us taught us through the years. When I think of my Grandparents I
think of the following......
Integrity: I can't remember a time when a lie was told, or a
debt not paid.
Faith: Incredible, unquestionable faith in God; that is absorbed
by everyone who they touch.
Forgiveness: Willing to overlook others shortcomings, to
maintain strengthen relationships.
Commitment: To their family, and each other.
Memorable Moments
Thelma has a reputation for being sort of a "klutz." Her knees were
weakened by a car accident and she has taken numerous spills over
the years. Once she nearly cut off her finger on a wire cart when
she tripped over the sidewalk. We all want to know if these
little "accidents"
had anything to do with them buying a house that was literally, a walk across
the parking lot, to a community hospital! Most recently Thelma tripped on the
church stairs and broke her help, we are all so thankful she has completely
recovered.
*Bud recently had cataracts removed and had to put up with a whole lot
of harassment...that Thelma had finally had enough, and gave him a
beauty of a shiner!
*Bud has eaten a bowl of Cream of Wheat every morning for the past
50 years! Whenever they vacation, Thelma packs it for him in his
suitcase!!
*Thelma and Bud always work as a team, for instance, whenever Bud
can't get the car started, Thelma just walks out and starts it right up!
*Thelma had pitch black hair for the first 75 years of her life. No gray
without using hair dye! This has been a problem since her daughter
turned gray 20 years before she did! Many through the years thought
they were sisters. PS, I (her granddaughter) dye my gray to avoid
being put counted in as a sister!
*Thelma, having prayed for years that her son Ray would find a new
wife finally gave up and decided she would take "the lord helps those
who help themselves" into her own hands. She set up a blind date
for her 50 year old divorced son with a neighbor -- they were married
six months later!
*Bud is a high school sports enthusiast. You will find him every football
Friday in his seat in the stands rooting on the Piqua Indians, for the
past 60+ years! He also supports basketball, baseball, and girls
fast pitch.
Other Comments: I thought I would share
some background with you, so you
can get to know my grandparents through our eyes.....
Thelma and Emerson "Bud" Putnam were married Feb. 20, 1953. I know
that Thelma feels God answered her prayers by sending her Bud; and he feels
it was the best day of his life. This was a second marriage for both of
them. From previous marriages she brought a daughter, Dixie, who was 14; he
brought two sons Richard who was 3, and Ray who was 2. A year later they
added a son together, Ron. She was primarily a housewife, he worked and
retired from a factory. They were both actively involved with the kids,
taking them fishing, and picnicking. He coached Little League when the boys
played baseball. Thelma was always busy sewing, tending flowers and plants,
and making things for her home and family.
They both value family. They are very supportive of their grown
children, and always willing to lend a hand. They have seven grandchildren,
and nine great grandchildren. They share their anniversary date with Grandson
Ben, who was married on the same date in 1999. For several years they
traveled, and spent a week a month taking care of her elderly mother, so she
could live out her life in her home, and not have to be placed in a nursing
home. Thelma is the family organizer.
She plans all the clan gatherings, and reunions. (She is not at all happy
that we are not letting her help plan this event!) And talk about, "all in
the family".... her daughter married his youngest brother! This means Mother
and Daughter shared the same Mother-In-Law! (and we don't even live in
Kentucky!)
Both have an incredible, undying faith in God. They attend church
services several times per week, and belong to a prayer cell. The line, "you
gave me faith, because you believed" certainly applies to them. We all have
absorbed faith, through their example. They turn to the lord time and time
again, in good and bad times. One "bad" time, was when Thelma and the boys
were in a serious car accident. As they lay waiting for the ambulance to take
them to the hospital, Thelma, with serious injuries herself, reached out for
her sons and encouraged them to pray. She knew God would hear, and take care
of them. It is this extreme faith that led their youngest son into the
seminary, and to pursue a career as a minister. Thelma taught bible school,
Sunday school to preschoolers, and gave weekly services at a local nursing
home for years. Bud also supported the church, and could always be found
standing over a hot fire pit flipping chicken for the First Church of Gods
annual Fourth of July Chicken Dinner Sale. Thelma always did her part at this
event as well, manning the pie booth ---- watching her Mother-In-Laws pies
sell out by the dozen!
The homes that the "kids" grew up in have long since been demolished.
But, Bud and Thelma remain permanent "fixtures" in their family and
community. Their love and faith is truly a blessing for their children,
grandchildren, and great grandchildren.
Style: Happy, Touching, with some Humor.
Package Type: Unique......I found your buried
treasure!
Last Thoughts: I know I gave you a lot of
information, I just hope you can
make some sense out of it!
Shining Examples
You are simply two very special
people
and your special-ness shines so
very bright,
you've been our inspiration, our
grounding rock,
in every way, you've been our
shining light.
Thelma has a reputation for being
sort of a "klutz",
unfortunately the car accident
weakened her knees
now her "trips" include the
sidewalk and the church stairs
and they once lived
close to the hospital just to keep down the fees.
Bud's had problems of his own,
his eyes no longer saw what they
used to see,
after the operation Thelma gave
him a shiner,
(just to make sure that they were
aligned perfectly).
Unfortunately, Bud has some
dreadful addictions
and boy, you should watch him
eat,
every morning, for fifty years,
Bud has eaten a bowl of Cream of
Wheat.
Thelma and Bud always work as a
team,
especially, when the car refuses
to start,
Bud gives up, Thelma gets it
going,
perfect team players - joined at
the heart.
Thelma's hair was pitch black for
seventy five years,
we swear, there was never an
ounce of dye,
daughter and granddaughter would
have liked these genes,
but there are some things you
just can't buy.
Thelma, prayed for years that Ray
would marry again,
of course, we know the Lord
understands,
so she set up a blind date with a
neighbor,
"the Lord helps those with
Thelma's helping hands".
Bud is a high school sports
enthusiast,
every football Friday you'll find
him there in his seat,
rooting for the Piqua Indians
and making the home quarter back
faster on his feet.
Surprisingly, this was the second
marriage for both of them,
but I know that Thelma thought
that Bud answered her prayers,
Bud feels it was the best day of
his life
and that's a thought that he
frequently shares.
They have such very fine qualities,
qualities that simply can't be
bought
and they've passed these onto their
offspring
and we're very grateful for all the
lessons that they've taught.
When we think of our grandparents,
these thoughts come to mind,
we think they are just marvelous
and both so incredibly kind.
Integrity is their watch word,
we can't remember a lie or a debt
not paid,
their faith in God is
unquestionable
and that's the way it has always
stayed.
They are both very forgiving
and willing to overlook
shortcomings in others,
their words of advice have been
treasured,
by friends, cousins, sons,
daughters, fathers and mothers.
They are so committed to one
another,
that commitment extends beyond the
family,
they have room in their hearts for
everyone,
for him, her, you and me.
Over the years we've kept it "all
in the family",
mother and daughter share the same
mother-in-law
and, we just wanted to say thank
you Bud and Thelma,
that's really what these words are
for.
Because "you gave us faith, because
you believed"
and that faith has been passed to
many here today,
we know that God hears and listens
to you,
because you both are shining
examples of His way.
Copyright Allen Jesson :) 2003
"Allen,
Thanks for the rewrite -- it's perfect!
Dee Ashworth"
Emerson and Thelma Putnam
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